Love and Logic The Sonshine Patch
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2416 Wright Rd.
Janesville, WI 53546
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     At Sonshine Patch Christian Preschool, we use the Love and Logic approach to guidance for young children.  We also offer Love and Logic parenting classes during the school year.  We have many books and C.D.s in our parent library to check out to enhance your parenting experience.  Watch your newsletter and this website for dates and times or you may email me for information.  If you are interested in a class for your school, parent group or church, please call or email me. 

Biblical Analogies to Love and Logic Philosophy

Though I am sure there are many more, the following are analogies I have observed between the“Love and Logic” parenting philosophy and biblical teachings.  As a Christian, this reassures me that Love and Logic not only reinforces Christian teachings, but also does not contradict them as many parenting philosophies do.  This is one of the reasons I so highly endorse Love and Logic and have chosen to become a Love and Logic facilitator. 

Love and Logic teaches that children need to make lots of choices.
When God created man, He gave him free will to make his own choices.

Genesis 2:16  “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.”

Joshua 24:15  “Then choose for yourselves this day who you will for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

*Love and Logic teaches that children need to be allowed to make lots of mistakes when the ‘price’ is small so they will make less mistakes when the price is large.  (i.e. skinning a knee on triangle vs. crashing a car)
Proverbs 8:10 “Choose my instruction instead of silver; knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is more precious than rubies and nothing you desire can compare with her.”
Hebrews 4:15 “For we do not have a high priest (Jesus) who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are-yet was without sin.  Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help others in their time of need.”

*Love and Logic teaches that allowing children to solve the problems they have created (with guidance) gives them a sense of accomplishment through struggle.
ames 1:1 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.  Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” 

*Love and Logic teaches that through chores children gain a sense of importance and belonging in the family.
2 Thessalonian 3:6-10  “In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ we command you brothers to keep away from every brother who is idle and does not live according to the teaching you received from us….
For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule, “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.”
Proverbs 10:4 “Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth.”

*Love and Logic teaches that after a child has experienced the consequences or discipline for his actions, we do not lecture or scold, but lovingly hug, encourage and welcome him back into the family activities.
After discipline/repentance, God lovingly welcomes us back in His arms.
Psalms 103:9,12 “He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever…as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”
Isaiah 40:11 “He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.”

*Though it is difficult and painful for us as parents to watch our children struggle, Love and Logic teaches that wisdom comes through suffering and working through problems.
God grieves when man sins (and makes bad choices).  It must be difficult and painful for Him to see His beloved children fall.

Matthew 23:37 “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing.”

*Love and Logic teaches children to be respectful and obedient as a result of loving and firm guidance.
God commands children to obey and honor their parents.
Ephesians 6:1-2 “Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.  Honor your father and mother.”

*Love and Logic teaches that children who experience logical consequences learn they are in charge of their own destiny.
God allows natural consequences to help man learn from his bad choices
Proverbs 12:1 “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, bu he who hates correction is stupid.”

 *When our kids do something that affects us directly-lose our tools, fail to put our things away after using them, etc., it’s okay for us to ‘do something’ about it.  If we are angry, Love and Logic teaches that a “delayed consequence” can be very appropriate, until our emotions are calmer.
Sometimes God disciplines us by “doing something” to help us learn from our mistakes.
Jeremiah 21:14 I will punish you as your deeds deserve, declares the Lord.

*Love and Logic teaches, we  are to discipline our children in love, never as vengeful, punitive or demeaning.  The goal is to prepare them to become responsible adults in the ‘real world’ someday.
In all cases, God disciplines man out of LOVE for His dear children wanting them to grow to become righteous children of God and to some day dwell in the kingdom of Heaven.
1Thessalonians 2:11 For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers do not exasperate your children.
Colossians 3: 21 Children obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.  Fathers do not embitter your children or they will become discouraged.

 Love and Logic tells us to set limits.  Limits help children to feel loved and safe.
God set limits and boundaries for man, first through the law and the 10 commandments, and then by commanding us to live following the example of His Son, Jesus Christ.
Proverbs 29:17 “Discipline your son and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.” 

*Love and Logic teaches that passing on values to our children is best done by example, by what they see and by what they experience in relating to us as parents.
Jesus life on this earth was an example and a model for man to follow to live a righteous life

Titus 2:6-7 “Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.  In everything set them an example by doing what is good”
Philippians 2:4-5 “Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others your attitudes should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.”

 Love and Logic teaches that anger directs children to focus on the adult’s anger, while empathy teaches children to look at their lives and their decisions.
James 1:19 “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”

Ephesians 4:26 “In your anger do not sin.” 
1 John 4:18  “There is no fear in love.  But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.  The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

*Love and Logic teaches that the more word you use, the less effective they become.
Matthew 5:37 “Simply let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’, ‘no’.”
Exodus 3:14 “God said to Moses, ‘I AM who I AM.  This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I AM has sent me to you’.”

*Love and Logic teaches that if we protect our children from mistakes, rescue them from consequences, set no limits, and do their thinking for them, we are training them to be unprepared for the real world. 1Thessalonians 3:13 “And as for you, brothers, never tire of doing what is right.”
Hebrews 12:7-13 “Endure hardship as discipline.  God is treating you as sons”
Mark 8:35-36 “For whoever wants to save his life will lose it , but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it”

*Love and Logic teaches us to use enforceable statements that involve thinking words, not fighting words.
Matthew 12:36 “But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless world they have spoken.”
Proverbs 15:1 “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger

 *Often we may feel “It is easier if I just do it myself” or “I just don’t want to argue with him/her; I’ll just let him do what he/she wants. 
But God tells us to persevere.  We will be held accountable for the parenting we do of the precious children He has gifted to us. 
Hebrews 12: 1 “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” 

Romans 14:12 “So then each of us will give an account of himself to the Lord.”

Matthew 7:13 “Enter through the narrow gate.  For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.  But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”

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The following are frequently asked questions and answers from the Love and Logic website.

Question SymbolWhat is Love and Logic?

Answer SymbolLove and Logic is a philosophy of raising and teaching children which allows adults to be happier, empowered, and more skilled in the interactions with children. Love allows children to grow through their mistakes. Logic allows children to live with the consequences of their choices. Love and Logic is a way of working with children that puts parents and teachers back in control, teaches children to be responsible, and prepares young people to live in the real world, with its many choices and consequences.

Question SymbolWho can benefit from Love and Logic?

Answer SymbolAlmost anyone will benefit from the Love and Logic approach. Our products especially help parents and teachers enjoy working with children through easy-to-use techniques. The Love and Logic approach helps children develop and grow in a healthy way, provides them with confidence and dignity, and teaches them how to become more responsible. The possibilities are limitless.

Question SymbolHow is Love and Logic different from other approaches?

Answer SymbolLove and Logic offers adults an alternative way to communicate with children. The Love and Logic techniques produce immediate results because the techniques are simple, practical, and easy to learn. The concepts behind Love and Logic place a heavy emphasis on respect and dignity for children and at the same time allows parents to grasp simple approaches instead of learning difficult counseling procedures.

The following articles are from the Love and Logic website and were written by Dr. Charles Fay or Jim Fay. Click on any article to read it.  New articles are continually added to the Love and Logic site so for more information, click on the Love and Logic Logo

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